I’m a fit, active, Deep Green, nature-loving Buddhist. I'm emotionally intelligent, aware, good listener. As a primate I'm tactile, loving hugs & cuddles.
I have strong, daily practices of Insight Meditation & yoga. I regularly sit retreats at Gaia House. I feel inspired by Thich Nhat Hanh's 5 Mindfulness Trainings. I regularly co-counsel & do Focusing for long-term personal development & day-to-day emotional housekeeping. These are transforming my being, allowing me to experience life more richly, less caught in distresses, lighter touch, more joy.
I love: ceilidh dancing, 5Rhythms, Biodanza, theatre improvisation, hill-walking, wilderness, wild-camping, wild-swimming (SOUP), sea kayaking (sadly rarely). I'm running about 20k/week including Park Run. I enjoy quality time with friends & want quality time with a lover.
I passionately concerned about planetary risks (climate change etc), interested in constructive, connecting responses: personal & political. I'm interested in how Buddhism & meditation can contribute to the shift to an equitable, just, peaceful, sustainable world. I lean towards low-carbon, voluntary simplicity: cycling, vegan at home, less strict out...
I’ve taken several NVC trainings. Lately exploring Insight Dialogue (interpersonal meditation) & renewed interest in exploring authentic masculinity.
Reading: John Wellwood's Awakening: Discovering the Sacred Path of Intimate Relationship, Harari's Sapiens & Homo Deus, Robert Wright's Why Buddhism is True. Listening: Arvo Part, Keith Jarrett…
I’m fairly well house-trained, cook, clean, leave loo seat down ;-)
Day job (4 day week) in solar energy research group. Developing training & facilitation work: guiding meditation, Work That Reconnects, co-counselling training ...
I’m wanting a deep, full relationship with a woman sharing emotional & physical intimacy, companionship, life's journey and just enjoying hanging out together. A relationship which we enjoy & in which we thrive, supporting us to explore, grow & develop; savouring delights, staying open through difficulties with kindness & presence.
Maybe life will surprise me & you'll be quite different but I’d hope we’ll share some of these:
Chemistry: wanting each other with head, heart, belly & genitals. Physically I tend to be attracted to women towards the athletic/slim body type;
Spiritual path: regular meditation & yoga practices, conscious relationship as a spiritual path, bright mind, warm heart;
Personal development: awareness & growth, allowing emotions (pain & sorrow or joy & laughter) to flow (Rumi’s Guest House);
Green: awareness & care for the earth & its inhabitants: climate change, environment, Extinction Rebellion, social justice, equality etc;
Nature-lover: connecting with nature, bivving, hill-walking, wild-swimming;
Fit & active: walking, running, cycling;
I'm feeling inspired by Wellwood's description of the sacredness of marriage: Two individuals’ passionate devotion to bringing love into form. This involves taking each other on, no holds barred, in the spirit of "I accept you & am willing to bring my intelligence & heart to bear on all your rough edges: & I want you to do the same for me. Let us work on these things & help each other realise the full range of our powers & possibilities". When a man & a woman join forces like this, all their ups & downs, their struggles & their joys, are held within a sacred context. Their marriage enables them to realise how "the two become one", how, despite all their differences & separateness, self & other, male & female, are of one spirit.
I recognise the challenge & take this as a direction of travel not a baseline. There’s a place for less intense down-time too.
I prefer phone, video or f2f to messaging.
